After much internal deliberation and a very
long conversation with my dear friend/ matchmaker, I finally took the plunge
and waded into the deep waters of online dating. I chose a discreet username,
registered with a singles-only Christians site, diligently answered the profile
questions, and uploaded a photo. I must confess that I had some reservations
about putting up a photo, but finally decided to go for it because that’s a
practical way of getting more people to view my profile, plus it bought me an
extra 3 days of free membership! And so began my first attempt at
putting-myself-out-there since the break-up.
Next, I created two saved searches – one
for my ideal guy in the UK and the other for my ideal guy anywhere in the world. My ideal guy
would be a Pentecostal Christian whose faith defines him, be involved in church
activities, be between 31 and 38 years
old and of African descent, have never been married, have no kids and no pets,
be marriage-minded, be at least 5ft 6 ins tall, not smoke, and not drink
heavily.
Before the end of day one, to my surprise
and well, delight, some people had initiated contact. There was mr wink-buddy,
mr i-want-to-find-my-baby-but-can’t-be-bothered-with-a-decent-profile, mr
nna-men, mr location-location-location, and mr chatty-and-interesting-but-older-and-pictureless.
I also typed a quick email to give mr
i-like-your-profile-but-you’re-never-online an award for the most descriptive
profile I had seen!
To be continued …